Losing A Child
I wanted to share this topic for the month of June because it has been on my mind a lot recently. I, myself love to read blogs along with posting on my personal blog. A month ago or so one of my favorite bloggers lost her little 3 years old boy. He was hit by a truck and died. As a parent, reading other parents thoughts and words about death is terrifying. This accident is just horrifying and every parent’s worst nightmare. I have never even met this family. However, I feel like family since she has been so expressive through her blogging career. I have turned to her for recipe advice, Mothering advice and DYI ideas. The thing that she is afraid of the most now, is how to “Not be a Mommy”. She is struggling with the thought of- “Am I a Mom still… or Not?” The answer is Yes, once a Mom always a Mom. Every day is a challenge for her to live without her son, he was her life. Some moments are better than others. She recently is starting blogging again about how she and her husband are getting through the hours.
Being a funeral director we have unfortunate deaths like this. Working here since 2010 I have only experienced a hand full of young, unexpected deaths. Every single one of them is a challenge on the professional’s part as well as a tragedy and unexplainable hardship on the families’ part. There are no words that can fix this. I just have to be a good listener and a guide for the family.
Recently, we had a service for a young man and his Mom explained that she knows God has given everyone a gift. One of those gifts is the 2 arms on our body, so every time you see her, she asked that you wrap those arms around her. She made it clear that the only way she will get through this is the support of her family, friends and God.
I have a few resources that might be able to help you, if you have experienced a loss of a child or young person. I hope these books or websites can help you.
The Death of a Child, Reflections for Grieving Parents by Elaine E. Stillwell
Why, by Ann Graham Lotz
How to Go on Living When Someone You Love Dies, by Theresa Rando
Healing Grief, by James Van Praagh’s
The Shack, by William P. Young
Chicken Soup for the Grieving Soul
Healing After Loss, by Martha Whitmore Hickman
Living Still, Loving Always, by Nita Aasen
When Your Child Dies by Theresa Huntley
The Bereaved Parents, by Harriet Sarnoff Schiff
More books and helpful tips-